Free Rein

The phrase “free rein” is defined as allowing someone or something complete freedom and is derived from an equestrian term that means – “a rein held loosely to allow a horse free motion; the freedom that this gives a horse”. (OED)   I’m combining both of these definitions as a way of explaining the purpose of this page.

There are times when the people who comment on this blog can’t always find the place to write about other thoughts, problems, topics and points of view.  It’s as much my problem as it is theirs.  The posts I write, from time to time, may raise collateral issues that can’t always be pigeon holed within the confines of what I have chosen as a topic on any given day.  It can often constrain conversation and debate, and just as often, leave some feeling that there is nowhere to bring up other subjects and matters that are important to them.

So I hope all of you will find this a different gathering place, where the conversation can flow more freely.  I don’t intend to monitor much of what is written here – most of you don’t give me cause to do so.  Given that, I invite you to start or join in on whatever things are interesting, relevant and important to you – unbridled and straight from the horse’s mouth.


94 Responses to Free Rein

  1. thedesigndiva2 says:

    YEA… Thanks MOM…

    Gotta have a theme song….LOL

    • melthehound says:

      Ha! 😀 Whenever I think of Dr Hook, This is what comes to mind. Warning, Not really PC.

      Once when I told my (ex) GF I enjoyed this song, I got in trouble with her about it. One of the many things she couldn’t stand about me is I don’t bend to what Society Says, I should Think and I really didn’t (and still don’t) give a rats fat ass what everyone else thinks of me. She couldn’t get past the Words in the song and see that this is a song about inclusion. That is, let everyone be themselves and accept them for what they are which, was the very thing she always was pissing in my ear about. That’s the way I always saw it anyway. We went our separate ways nearly 20 years ago and I got a hot car (1969 Corvette) and a cool dog (100 pound American Bull Dog) to replace her.

      • thedesigndiva2 says:

        MTH… Dr Hook was the guys music we would play when we had fire pit parties back when…. How I miss those days…!!!!!!
        Good for you on the vette and the dog….LOL

        • melthehound says:

          The Vette was financed with the money I was going to use to pay for the wedding and the money I Ebay’d the ring for. The dog was a stray that just happened along at a friends house one day. Aside from the current 4 legged occupant of my house, Best dog I ever had. Certainly didn’t bitch about my enjoying The Freaker’s Ball 😉

      • IceMeNot says:

        Your gal neither understands what tongue in cheek means, nor has p.c. left her with any remnant of a sense of humor! I suppose a ‘bulldog’ was your answer to her? Back in the days when we were acting silly like these dudes here, everyone was having a blast grooving to this funny song, even the ‘words that can’t be said’ type of people!! lol

        • melthehound says:

          She became more PC and liked my sense of humor less and less as the relationship droned on. It became less and less about US and more about what She thought I should be, I’m sure at the prompting of her ‘friends’. Gawd, I HATED her Friends. She even went so far as to tell me I gave her an Ulcer. Her music passion of the time was the Seattle Poor Me Rock if that gives you any idea (apologies to those here who also enjoyed that music, I did not). When we parted though she had just received her Master’s and went on to the full PhD. I still wish her the best but I’m glad I never married her.

      • Adgirl says:

        You had an American Bulldog? We lost ours in November. Still very sad.
        Spanky was huge fun. And everyone loved to see her giant drooling head lumber down the street. They are totally cool dogs.

        • thedesigndiva2 says:

          Adgirl.. Sorry about the loss of Spanky…Why did I think it was more recent that she had passed ??? I must have read it somewhere !!!!!

          • Adgirl says:

            Yes, someone announced that somewhere. Very upsetting. I don’t know why anyone would want to upset me like that. I didn’t think it was very nice.

        • melthehound says:

          I Think that’s what he was. He was about 8 months old when I got him, still had some of his baby teeth. I’m sure he got loose from somebody but his people never showed up so I guess you could say I became his person. He was just as welcome in my life as I seemed to be in his. A complete clown in front of the camera and Very protective of what he believed to be His. Not with me though, Though I didn’t make a habit of it, I Could take food out of his mouth. Strong as a bull too. One day he drug my 70 pound nephew across a 100 yard park to get to another dog (who was behind a fence).

          I’m sorry about your loss, Adgirl. It’s never easy to lose a family member, especially the furry kind.

          • Adgirl says:

            OMG he is cute. I can see the “clown” in his eyes. Very sorry about his escaping from the yard. (((Mel/Jeff)))
            I think Chuck is a mix because his amber coloring ,and he is not as jowly nor has as many neck wrinkles as Am Bulls get as they age.
            Ours had that funny underbite with itty bitty teeth on the bottom. Spanky would jut out her chin and stand with her front legs bowed glaring at us if there was something on the counter she wanted. Scary – not.
            Piggy. Big Dummy. Bobblehead.

            OK Mel, you’re talking me into getting another one. Or I’m talking myself into … stop!

            • melthehound says:

              He probably Was a mutt.. He had the jowels but not as much when his mouth was closed. More pitbull type mouth perhaps as he didn’t have the underbite. When these people told me they had this dog, they said he was a yellow lab. I knew at first glance that he wasn’t any sort of Lab. Initially I wasn’t going to take him but I turned around and went back and got him.

              • Adgirl says:

                MTH Saw you Youtube channel from a link on Lynn’s. Loved the Railroad pix. My granddad was a civil engineer for a railroad (laying tracks) and was a yard foreman in San Francisco during the war.

              • melthehound says:

                Thank you! Mine was a fireman on the Wabash out of Detroit, called back to work after being a depression casualty (laid off) when WWII broke out. He eventually left the RR side of the life to take a post as chairman of the BLF&E (brotherhood of locomotive firemen and engineers) in the 1960s.

            • melthehound says:

              I would never try to convince anyone who may not be ready but Come On Adgirl, You Know you want another 😉 JK, Do it when you’re ready, not before. Not fair to anyone involved.

              • Adgirl says:

                LOL. I think we’re ready emotionally but to be fair to the brute or brutess we should be sure we will be home enough to intervene with any destructive behavior brought about by boredom.
                Also, The Cat has a long list of demands starting with “Don’t Chase Me” and ending with “That Used to Be Your Nose, Idiot”.

                We found a Bull Terrier Rescue (Target dog) but I do not think B.T. and C.A.T. are compatible.

              • melthehound says:

                I could see that being a problem. A terrier of Any kind loves to chase and a Cat is just the ticket.

      • momule1213 says:

        Good for you!! yeah I believe the same thing as u , people are people and let them be themselves and yeah i traded mine in for a 100lb english bulldog/pit LOL May life be good to you

  2. IceMeNot says:

    Wow! No wonder we were having so much “free love” back then! Remember that great Mac Davis song about “me and my skintight blue jeans”?

  3. thedesigndiva2 says:

    • IceMeNot says:

      “Oh Lord it’s hard to be humble,
      When you’re perfect in evuree way!”

      One of the best songs ever! Thank you, Diva!

    • melthehound says:

      I haven’t heard That song in Years. It’s one that I use to sing around Our campfires at my uncle’s cottage in northern Michigan back in the day. While the ‘old folks’ (then) sat and drank their wine. I guess the more they drank, the better I sounded 😉 (now I’m the old phart. How the hell did That happen?) I’ll have to revive the song and use it in one of my slide shows.

  4. thedesigndiva2 says:

    IMN… You are very welcome…You know me and my music..!!! LOVE MUSIC….
    When I recieved the email from Empress stating that she had started this page for all of us , and named it FREE REIN… I of course immediately starting sing Skynard FREE BIRD in my head…
    I have always enjoyed playing word association to song titles and what event may have been happening at the time of that particular song…I think it’s an excellent brain exercise for memory recall….

    How’s the book going ???? I wish her every bit of success she so deserves,,, !!!!!
    I have a GOOD FRIEND ( wink ) who is working on her novel now…Hopefully she will get it completed and show the world her “hidden” talents……Hell , I’d even sign up to be her roadie manager and cruise the Country promoting her…. ROAD TRIP BONNIE !!!!!!

    Hugs and Peace

    • Adgirl says:

      Free Bird!

    • IceMeNot says:

      Thanks for asking. No solid numbers yet from the publisher. She’s criss croosed the country, venturing into the middle, lol, and Texas. But she’s an unknown so word of mouth will be interesting. Kindle is outselling hardcovers 6 weeks looks like.
      So she came home, took a poll of her little braintrust and went back to polishing the
      outline of the new novel. Keep your fingers crossed! It would make her so relieved to get a 2nd book contract!
      And you!? Attending caregiver support groups m’am? Your longevity increases when you pass the pity pot at the “Old broads nursing fussy old farts” meetings! OBNFOF is how you should google search it for local meetings. I’ve heard that with the baby boomers aging, these mtgs are more popular than A.A. Obviously!!

  5. thedesigndiva2 says:

    Proof that Men Have Better Friends…

    Friendship among Women:
    A woman didn’t come home one night. The next morning she told her husband

    That she had slept over at a friend’s house. The man called his wife’s 10 best
    friends. None of them knew anything about it.

    Friendship among Men:
    A man didn’t come home one night. The next morning he told his wife that he

    had slept over at a friend’s house. The woman called her husband’s 10 best

    Friends. Eight confirmed that he had slept over, and two said he was still there.

  6. thedesigndiva2 says:

    Adgirl… I SSSOOOOO thought of you as I was typing those words…!!!! FREE BIRD….
    Sweet Home Alabama…!!!

  7. thedesigndiva2 says:

    MTH.. He’s a CUTIE for sure… And lots of CHEST to him….
    He sorta reminds me of “our” first dog when Mr Ford and I moved back to fl in 1983.. His name was ” DOOBIE “…LOL
    Shepard and African Besingi.. the barkless dog.. corkscrew tail and all.. and he was a thigh biter..had fighting claws also…
    Would not come back if you called him..EVER.. He would be next dr one lot over at my brothers house and he REFUSED to return back home. You had to drive over and open the back dr of the car to bring him home…
    One day we had him tied up to an overturned 22 ft long canoe in the back yard.. That damn dog dragged the canoe 160 ft..2 lots to get at a poodle in heat…LOL LOL.. Poodle owner was not happy.. Animal Control thought it was the funniest thing they ever saw… POWER OF THE POO TANG…….. We did not get a ticket for that trick…
    Then we move to our new house from our rental…Doobie disappeared on day two… 16 ft long boat rope and all.. We looked all over for him..Even went back to the old house.. 10 miles away..No doobie…
    Then day five.. A kid that was working with Mr ford at the same plumbing company comes into to work telling everybody about this crazy ass dog that wont let him into his own house… LOL
    So he is describing this dog to mr ford.. they leave work and go to the house.. Sure’s DOOBIE sitting on the front porch.. Rope and all… LOL LOLLOL The kid who lived there was the son of our previous land lady…. and he had NEVER met Doobie…. One crazy ass dog for sure…

  8. thedesigndiva2 says:

    Adgirl.. must have been someone with SFB…. winks
    Off to publix and to huff some Reddi Whip… my dog wrote that !!!

  9. thedesigndiva2 says:

    Um. Yea. Sure….. LOL

    The kid who stocks the dairy aisle is now into reading my mind… I was walking up to him to ask when were they going to start carrying International Delight Iced Coffee and before I couls even ask him..he says.. NOPE …DONT HAVE IT… I said WHOA.. how do you even know what I am going to ask you… He says.. CAUSE I KNOW YOU… hahahahahaha
    He says he has been on the manager to look into it.. Says LOTS of people are asking for it.. I said Well YEA.. they are advertizing the hell out of it on the TIT TUBE…. hahahahahaha

  10. thedesigndiva2 says:


  11. baronessbeachcomber says:
  12. melthehound says:

    Thanks a Lot Diva.. Since you posted that Mac Davis video, I haven’t been able to get that damn song out of my mind.

  13. thedesigndiva2 says:

    FRESH BERRIE SEASON IS UPON US… Here’s way to keep them fresh and help with that “moldy” problem,,,

    Berries are delicious, but they’re also kind of delicate. Raspberries in particular seem like they can mold before you even get them home from the market. There’s nothing more tragic than paying $4 for a pint of local raspberries, only to look in the fridge the next day and find that fuzzy mold growing on their insides.

    Well, with fresh berries just starting to hit farmers markets, we can tell you that how to keep them fresh! Here’s a tip I’m sharing on how to prevent them from getting there in the first place:

    Wash them with vinegar!!

    When you get your berries home, prepare a mixture of one part vinegar (white or apple cider probably work best) and ten parts water. Dump the berries into the mixture and swirl around. Drain, rinse if you want (though the mixture is so diluted you can’t taste the vinegar,) and pop in the fridge. The vinegar kills any mold spores and other bacteria that might be on the surface of the fruit, and voila! Raspberries will last a week or more, and strawberries go almost two weeks without getting moldy and soft. So go forth and stock up on those pricey little gems, knowing they’ll stay fresh as long as it takes you to eat them.

    You’re so berry welcome!

  14. melthehound says:

    New Video.. Enjoy 🙂

  15. baronessbeachcomber says:

    Is Obama Too Cool?

  16. Donna says:


    • melthehound says:

      I’ll just take them all down and stop using YT then invite people to download them from my web space. That doesn’t help the others getting screwed in the butt though. This isn’t the first time that someone has laid claim to stuff they didn’t own. There use to be a site called OLGA- OnLine Guitar Archive. A free space provided for private individuals to upload and share charts of music, copywrited music yes, but even the interpretations of such were laid claim to. Further, the Midi files that went along with them at times (MIDI is a digital interface that is used to communicate with synthesizers and other music related devices, including your computer if so equipped). $5 per download this asshole was asking. OLGA just shut the site down. Similar sites are out there now but guess what they are accompanied by… Google Ads.

  17. jakefromstatefarm says:

    Uhm. Khakis.

  18. It’s “Power Players” week on “Jeopardy and I thought you might enjoy seeing how well MSNBC’s Chris Matthews fared last night:
    Problems started for Matthews when he requested a category in the form of a question.
    “Let’s go back to, what is ‘Crossword Clues E?'” Matthews said. “I mean, I’m sorry, let’s go $200 for the category ‘Crossword Clues E.'”
    For the answer, “Full name of the U2 pilot shot down over the Soviet Union in 1960,” Matthews responded, “Who is Gary Powers?” The correct response was “Who is Francis Gary Powers?”
    “We need the full name,” host Alex Trebek told Matthews.
    “Who is Gary Powers?” Matthews said, repeating himself.
    “No,” Trebek said to audience laughter.
    Later, after Trebek said, “A U.S.D.C. is one of these, charged with the jurisdiction of a specific region,” Matthews responded, “What is a U.S. attorney?”
    The correct answer was “What is a district court?”
    “In 1986, the Supreme Court ruled that the ‘hostile environment’ type of this can be sex discrimination.”
    Matthews responded, “What is a hostile workplace?” The correct answer was “What is sexual harrassment?”
    In the category “6-Letter World Capitals,” the clue was “St. Basil’s Cathedral is there.” Matthews responded: “What is Istanbul?”
    The correct answer: “What is Moscow?”

    • melthehound says:

      Must be hell for him to live without that teleprompter. I wonder if his leg still has a tingle because that’s the last time I watched anything he did. What a boob. I’ll freely admit that I wouldn’t have known most of those answers either but, I’m not the one on a TV news broadcast stating my opinion as fact.

  19. Donna says:


  20. Donna says:

    Voter supression in Florida

    “Think Progress profiles one of those voters, Maureen Russo, who was born in Akron, Ohio and has lived—and voted—in Florida for the past 40 years. Earlier this month, she got a letter from the state, telling her that she would have to prove that she was a U.S. citizen in order to keep her voter registration because it had “received information that she was not born in this country.” Where this information came from remains a mystery.” ~article

  21. Kæreste says:

    This week there was an uproar when a reporter interrupted (or allegedly “heckled”) the President. The reporter said he thought the President was finished with his speech. There were many articles about “respecting” the Office of the President.

    Also, this week a popular HBO show used “a prop severed head bearing the likeness of a former president’s head mounted on a stick.”. The show’s creators sputtered and obfuscated, offering several whimpy reasons for this “accident”.

    Just own it.

  22. Sack Lunches

    I put my carry-on in the

    luggage compartment and sat down in my assigned

    seat. It was going to be a long flight. ‘I’m

    glad I have a good book to read. Perhaps I will

    get a short nap,’ I thought.

    Just before take-off,

    a line of soldiers came down the aisle and

    filled all the vacant seats, totally surrounding

    me. I decided to start a conversation.

    ‘Where are you

    headed?’ I asked the soldier seated nearest to me.

    ‘Petawawa. We’ll be there for two

    weeks for special training, and then we’re being

    deployed to Afghanistan

    After flying for about an hour, an announcement was

    made that sack lunches were available for five

    dollars. It would be several hours before we

    reached the east, and I quickly decided a lunch

    would help pass the time…

    As I reached for my

    wallet, I overheard a soldier ask his buddy if

    he planned to buy lunch. ‘No, that seems

    like a lot of money for just a sack lunch.

    Probably wouldn’t be worth five bucks.

    I’ll wait till we get to base.’

    His friend agreed.

    I looked around at the

    other soldiers. None were buying lunch. I walked

    to the back of the plane and handed the flight

    attendant a fifty dollar bill. ‘Take a

    lunch to all those soldiers.’ She grabbed my

    arms and squeezed tightly. Her eyes wet with

    tears, she thanked me. ‘My son was a soldier in

    Iraq ; it’s almost like you are doing it for him.’

    Picking up ten sacks, she headed up the aisle to where the

    soldiers were seated. She stopped at my seat and

    asked, ‘Which do you like best – beef or chicken?’

    ‘Chicken,’ I replied,

    wondering why she asked. She turned and went to

    the front of plane, returning a minute later

    with a dinner plate from first class..

    ‘This is your thanks.’

    After we finished

    eating, I went again to the back of the plane,

    heading for the rest room.

    A man stopped me. ‘I saw what you did. I want to

    be part of it. Here, take this.’ He handed me

    twenty-five dollars.

    Soon after I returned

    to my seat, I saw the Flight Captain coming down

    the aisle, looking at the aisle numbers as he

    walked, I hoped he was not looking for me, but

    noticed he was looking at the numbers only on my

    side of the plane. When he got to my row he

    stopped, smiled, held out his hand and said, ‘I

    want to shake your hand.’ Quickly unfastening my

    seatbelt I stood and took the Captain’s hand.

    With a booming voice he said, ‘I was a soldier

    and I was a military pilot. Once, someone bought

    me a lunch. It was an act of kindness I never

    forgot.’ I was embarrassed when applause was

    heard from all of the passengers.

    Later I walked to the

    front of the plane so I could stretch my legs. A

    man who was seated about six rows in front of me

    reached out his hand, wanting to shake mine. He

    left another twenty-five dollars in my palm.

    When we landed I

    gathered my belongings and started to deplane.

    Waiting just inside the airplane door was a man

    who stopped me, put something in my shirt

    pocket, turned, and walked away without saying a

    word. Another twenty-five dollars!

    Upon entering the

    terminal, I saw the soldiers gathering for their

    trip to the base.

    I walked over to

    them and handed them seventy-five dollars. ‘It

    will take you some time to reach the base.

    It will be about time for a sandwich.

    God Bless You.’

    Ten young men left that flight feeling the love and

    respect of their fellow travelers.

    As I walked briskly to

    my car, I whispered a prayer for their safe

    return. These soldiers were giving their all for

    our country. I could only give them a couple of

    meals. It seemed so little…

    A veteran is someone

    who at one point in his life wrote a blank

    check made payable to ‘The United States of

    America’ for an amount of ‘up to and

    including my life.’

    That is Honor, and

    there are way too many people in this country

    who no longer understand it.’

    • melthehound says:

      😀 😀 😀

    • thedesigndiva2 says:

      I cried the first time I read this awhile back.
      When we brought our MARINE HOME from Cali to Fla for his service..we were not allowed to fly on the same plane as his.. we met the plane on the tarmac and people who were on the plane with our MARINE said that the Pilot mentioned they had a “special” passenger on board and they paused for a moment of silent prayer.She said that many people started sniffling. I was so touched by the amount of unconditional love that was shown to us that night at PBIA from complete strangers all united in a single moment…. I still get goosebumps when I read about the onoing tragedies and cry with joy when they come home safely…
      God bless all our soldiers and their families for the ultimate sacrifice…. Next time you see a person in uniform buy them a LUNCH….
      Hugs and peace

      • Donna says:

        After being stationed in Iraq, my grandson is in Afghanistan. He is supposed to be home in September. As he decided not to re-up he will be out for good in October. The fun part is on a FB group that I created especially for family. We had a merry ole time when all three of us were in chat at the same time.. All 3 of us were my son, grandson and I.

      • Donna says:

        Sorry for your loss,. I hope I didn’t sound like an idiot posting my good news.

        • Diva says:

          Donna.NO you did notsound like an idiot..I LOVE reading good news …. So happy for all your family..May the all continue to be safe from harm !!!

  23. A Mother’s Love – A Family’s Hero:

    Heather Ann Town
    VENUS – Heather Ann Town, age 32 of Venus and formerly of Okeechobee passed away Sunday, June 24, 2012 in Highlands County, Florida as a result of Tropical Storm Debby. She was born Feb. 28, 1980 in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. She had been a resident of Basinger (Okeechobee) for the last 22 years. In February 2012 she moved to Venus, Florida. Heather’s life revolved around her family and three beautiful daughters that she was raising as a single parent. In addition she loved celebrating every holiday and birthday that brought the family together. Heather would do anything for her daughters, which is no surprise that Heather’s last breathes were taken clutching her youngest daughter to protect her from the tornado that took her life. Heather Town is a Hero and will always be remembered as a hero by her family, friends and people everywhere. She was considered more than a tenant by her landlord and more than an employee by her employer, she was a friend. Heather blessed everyone she came in contact with. Heather will always be in our hearts and loved forever. She will be truly missed by her surviving daughters, Amber, Angelica and AnnMarie; parents, Rosa Town and George Town II (FieFie); her grandparents Greta and Kenny Peterson and Dawn and Ed Erickson; sister, Crystal Walker (Portor); brother, George Town (Staci); step-sisters, Mailien and Cindy; seven nieces and nephews, Codi, Destiny, Alex, Alexis, Shane, Annibelle and Chrysa; and many aunts, uncles and cousins. In lieu of flowers donations may be made to the Town Children’sFund, care of Crystal Town at TD Bank, 2190 US 227 N, Sebring, FL 33870. Non- monetary donations for the living necessities may be made to the Town Family, 3784 SW 17th Street, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33312 or Post Office Box 516, Moore Haven, FL 33471.

  24. Diva says:

    Something different to make you SMILE…..

  25. That’s a great video. Thanks, dd. Smiling and dancing… 😀
    Happy 4th of July.

    • Diva says:

      Anytime…I also did an experiment…
      I discovered how NOT to post th whole video on these websites…FINALLY..
      when you find one you want to share on youtube…click the share button.. copy and paste in an email to YOURSELF… then when you get the email…you can copy and paste OR copy shortcut and then paste in the comment box and ONLY the link will show…yippy….. so will have to go try and see to make sure it continues to work that way…

  26. Jake From State Farm says:

    Oh. My.
    “My bed is strengthened and, although I can’t buy sexy lingerie, I drape a nice sheet over me.”

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