I watched this episode three times. No, really. I did – twice last night and then again this morning. Then I started to write a post. That one was deleted and so were two others because I didn’t know what it was supposed to be about. This episode felt like, as Yogi Berra said, “deja vu all over again.” It’s all Teresa’s fault. If she hadn’t hurled that table at Danielle, the rest of the Housewives might never have been inspired to engage in such ridiculous fights. So, this is I how I understood this episode and some of the things that led up to it.
Capitalizing on Heartbreak
This comment was really rich coming from Brandi. Someone is capitalizing on heartbreak, no doubt about it – lots of someones. Brandi is doing it herself – for herself and to herself. She’s made a cottage industry out of her heartbreak. For all of her claims that she just wants to “move on” from her ex-husband and his laundry list of mistresses, she’s using it for every last dime she can squeeze from her wounded wife storyline. She’s a Bravolebrity because Eddie Cibrian had numerous affairs – among them was with a waitress from Lisa’s restaurant, SUR and, another, more famous one was with country singer Leann Rimes. This is Brandi’s storyline, her only storyline. Without it, she has nothing else to offer Bravo and the viewers. She wrote her first book, and though I haven’t read it, I understand it goes into details about her marriage and the resulting heartbreak. I did read book number two and she has a lot to say about her ex, his new wife, her STD gift from Eddie and how he drove her to drink away her sorrows. Even her multiple booty calls and hookups are his fault, because now all men are just douchebags, you know. If that isn’t capitalizing on heartbreak, then I don’t know what is. Brandi can make hay all the hay she wants while the sun shines, but don’t turn it around and tell us you’re moving forward.
I don’t know what she means by moving on, because, in addition to all of the things I listed above, she has taken to Twitter to plead her side of some pension settlement issues with Cibrian. This is always the best route to take when you receive a letter regarding legal matters, especially when you don’t know exactly what the documents say. Just throw your “poor me” tweets out there, ignore the facts, THEN call your lawyer. No wonder she pays so much for legal counsel. Maybe her copies of documents should be accompanied by visual aids, like stick figure drawings and emojis.
During this episode, Brandi had been told by her on-again, off-again boyfriend, the one she calls The Latino, that he couldn’t go on the trip to Puerto Rico because he had too much work to do at Mauricio’s real estate firm. A day or so into the trip, they spoke on the phone and he told her he had decided to take some “me time” in Italy. While I was watching this episode, I wondered how much of this played into her sullen and juvenile attitude. We haven’t seen it yet, but when she got back to L.A., he called to tell her that he had met someone in Rome and had feelings for the new woman.
Brandi has trust issues, and for that, her ex-husband deserves every bit of the heat he’s taken. She, on the other hand, has to find some way to live her life with a bit of dignity. More than half the marriages in the country end in divorce, not always because of infidelity, but enough that they’re not uncommon. Women become single moms and their kids divide their time between parents. It’s tough and painful, but it happens all the time. Brandi wants us to believe that she’s the only one who’s suffered this kind of heartbreak, giving her license to strike out at all of us, Lisa, Kyle, Kim, Adrienne, Taylor and viewers. If you don’t believe me, just go to Twitter and count the number of STFUs directed at anyone who asks a question or offers a differing opinion.
Capitalizing on heartbreak doesn’t stop with Brandi. Kyle, Kim and Yolanda do it, too. Kyle had no problem bringing up her husband’s cheating rumors early on in the season. She discussed them with Joyce and Michael, and alone with her husband. It gave her storyline some drama and caused a stir among viewers, and now she’s raising it again, only this time it’s her concern over some tabloids. Kim’s heartbreak is self-inflicted, brought on by years of substance abuse which left her family in complete disarray while she makes feeble attempts to set things right. I don’t know if she’s in a 12-step program, but she seems to be walking backwards. She may be in a better place with her immediate family, but now she’s turning her pain and frustrated efforts of recovery on her castmates. She’s become besties with Brandi who accused her of using meth, while also commenting that Kyle really didn’t want to see Kim in recovery. She told Ken Todd that she was sick of his “Goddamn mouth” and called him “a stubborn old man” when he dismissed her contributions to the fight at the dinner. Maybe he is, but maybe he just sees a woman, about the same age of his own son, acting like a loon, with no real independent knowledge regarding the argument at hand.
Yolanda’s heartbreak is there, although she holds it a little closer to the cuff by overplaying her love and devotion to her husband David. She can’t help but feel that she’s just one in a long line of Foster wives. She also knows how her ex, Mohamed, feels about Lisa and that has to bunch her panties, too. Mohamed loves and admires Lisa, probably in a way he never has for any of the women in his life. So Yolanda does what she does best, aside from being a trophy wife. She turns her energies towards her children, especially “the child”, guiding and overseeing every aspect of her modeling career. It gives her something to do, and a sense of self-worth, while her King is at the Mormon Tabernacle with Stevie Wonder, gifting the world with his music. We all know he ain’t gonna be caught dead with this group of “clowns”.
I really don’t give a rat’s patoot about a stack of tabloids. If this dinner was about airing their respective grievances against Lisa and proving she lied, so be it. Lisa did hedge a bit about the dumb rags but that doesn’t really prove anything – I’ve been known to walk into my kitchen and then forget what I wanted to do in there, so please don’t ask me what happened six months ago. If she put them in Brandi’s suitcase, then Brandi could take them out – unless Kim was sitting on them – after all, Kim did try to pack herself into hers for the trip. It really doesn’t matter if Lisa invited Scheana to Dancing With The Stars, unless Brandi, again, sees another opportunity to air her ex’s dirty laundry. It’s my understanding that Lisa’s daughter, Pandora, is friends with Scheana, so it could be that Pandora brought her along.
Finally, Bravo and the cast capitalized on Joyce’s heartbreak. Okay, she allowed her father’s death to be a part of this episode, but I don’t think she expected a bunch of harpies to turn the trip into a full-blown disaster. She told the group that she wanted the trip to be fun and not about her loss. Until that dinner, her scenes were with her Mom, her husband and her extended family. They talked about their love for each other and her Dad. These scenes looked like they didn’t even belong in this episode.
Carlton was missing…small favors.
I think Carlton was kept away so that she wouldn’t fight with Kyle and take away from the big Kyle vs. Lisa setup.
I’m sorry you watched it three times. It was an extremely insane episode.
You’re probably right regarding Carlton. The reason I watched it three times was because I wasn’t sure about a lot of things they said – that and the fact that none of it made any sense. Fighting for the sake of fighting.
Sanity speaks 😀 Even if sanity had to watch 3 times just because it was so unbelievably stupid. Just like one stares and wonders in amazement at the sight of any other dumbass and his/her actions.
LOL! They’re about 5 minutes away from becoming the people of WalMart. (Wait, I shop at WalMart. Never mind.) 😉
Even though you shop there, I doubt you would ever end up on that website 😉
Lol! The hubs and I have a running joke when it comes to our Walmart outings – how we could roll out of bed, show up in our jammies and still look overdressed.
You crack me up Empress! As I’ve noted many time, I no longer watch these trainwrecks called the RH’s shows but enjoy reading the various recaps. I always look for yours first and it always reminds me how glad I am that I don’t watch anymore. I understand why you watched three times but that’s above and beyond, in my humble opinion. Your poor brain must have been exhausted after the third viewing!
Regarding WalMart…occasionally I have to pop in there after I’ve left the gym (it’s directly across the street). I used to feel bad because I was gross and sweaty from working out but after looking around, I don’t anymore. I may be sweaty but at least I am fully clothed, my “plumber’s crack” is covered and I’m wearing real shoes!
Thanks for following my posts, jules.
To be clear, we wear our best pajamas when we have to make a Walmart run – you know, keeping up appearances and all.
I love the scene with Joyce and her mother stroking, touching each other’s hair. It gave me a better understanding of Joyce that she is the type of person that touches other’s when talking to them.
That really was a sweet scene, wasn’t it? I don’t understand the criticism of Joyce. She seems happy and smart, and she and her husband appear to love and like each other in the same way Lisa and Ken do.
I like Joyce too. She reminds me of a former co-worker, always happy and bubbly. Some people are just like that. And her husband seems absolutely devoted. Very nice people, as far as I’m concerned.
You know the definition of Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results!!! Ha!! I was going to watch it again but got a few minutes into the 2nd showing and said, NO!! JUST SAY NO!!!
LOL! My problem wasn’t that I expected a different result – just some kind of result, any result, anything period.
I am kinda mad at myself for watching, it is like Seinfeld, a show about nothing but it is really badly done!!
Not for nothing Empress but this blog is so damn good you could have ended it with …” Drops the mic and walks off stage”….outstanding!!…now, about that Vanity Fair job-get on that Gwyneth Paltrow story! As the first order of business!!
Jill, you’re cracking me up. Nothing would make me happier than for VF to allow me to give my take on the little GOOP-ster. FWIW, I think Graydon Carter completely copped out. Makes you really miss Dominick Dunne, doesn’t it?
Carter caved-that letter he wrote was so insincere and he was caving right before our eyes! He had an article all written and he folded like a cheap lawn chair! I loved Dominick Dunne and he is the reason I became a VF reader -I still love the magazine but I lost respect for Graydon.
Thanks for the great blog Empress!
OMG, I so miss Dominick Dunne. I only ever read Vanity Fair for him. Graydon Carter is a sissy!
I would LOVE if you could read over this http://www.scribd.com/doc/209016380/Parks-v-Stanton-Defendants-Motion-for-Summary-Judgment and perhaps blog about it,
It’s Phaedra Parks and Angela Stanton
For some reason Angela’s deposition is hard to read, I have typed most of it out. LynnNchicago is mentioned (remember the C&D?) I believe she went to you for advice, I remember when it happened b/c she was so upset about it.
I can email you what I typed out.
Could you send me an email at email@example.com? I have no problem reading the docs – I just have a couple of questions. Thanks.
Empress ,,, you write so well … thanks for the recap … loved Dominic Dunne whether reading what he had written in VF or listening to him on his TV show/program .. he would have revealed what Carter could not ,,and have the article was printed, he would have been celebrated for the article on GPoopster … enjoy your weekend, stay warm!