It looks like Bravo put the bait out with the Bethenny boat trip and I’ve taken it. I’m going to have to recap this at least until the secret of that mysterious GPS problem is resolved. I have to satisfy my own curiosity about if the Coast Guard was actually contacted and all of the other rumors swirling about this drama – planned or otherwise. It doesn’t look like our sailors are leaving the dock quite yet, however.
This episode was just as much about the business side of Bethenny as it was about her marriage, and yet both storylines were intertwined. There were parts in which Bethenny is seen doing photo shoots for People magazine and meeting with web designers for her Skinnygirl brand. She was as concerned about getting the new apartment renovations back on schedule as she was about Julie’s future as her assistant. Bethenny and Julie have shared a lot over time, but Julie is worried about living her own life instead of just a vicarious one through Bethenny.
The pot that simmered throughout this episode was an argument that had occurred over Jason’s fortieth birthday weekend, and it still hadn’t been resolved. We find out, piece by piece, that at the end of a weekend that even Jason admitted was a happy one, there was an angry exchange between the couple where words were spoken and, perhaps, shouldn’t have been. Bethenny tries to explain it to a girlfriend during the magazine shoot, but this girlfriend is no help at all. She tells Bethenny that it is Jason who is completely at fault, something no one should say about someone else’s marriage, and even worse, a friend.
Bethenny talks it over with Dr. Amador, who, very wisely, says that Jason is not without his own issues. In his conversations with his patient, the doctor has learned about Jason’s past and believes that he has not dealt with some problems from the past. I can only assume, but Jason did lose a brother and his parents lost a son, and that doesn’t get erased by ignoring it. Some things are not simply overcome with an attitude of “get over it and move on”. Families’ dynamics change after tragic events, whether they realize it or not. During this session, Bethenny says that Jason has gone to visit his parents with Bryn. It may be because he is still angry over the fact that they were not included in the birthday weekend. It may also be because he doesn’t know how to transition from son to husband.
Jason has agreed to go on the sailing trip with Bethenny and Dr. Amador, but I’m not sure he’s comfortable with the idea. He and Bethenny arrive at the site from where the helicopter will depart and take them to Block Island. They are obviously upset and there is tension between them from an early morning argument – about the stupid birthday celebration. Bethenny wants an apology from her husband for the things he said – things like how she will end up alone and that she is damaged. Jason is angry, not only about the birthday, but about the sailing experience. He doesn’t want to spend the weekend, with a therapist, airing their dirty laundry. He walks away, telling his wife that he’s not going because it’s not worth it.
We know that the boat trip happens. We’ve heard all about it from every tabloid, talk show and blogger. This trip is a good thing, and, if they’re open and honest, will teach them a lot about each other and about themselves. While Bethenny admits her own damage and baggage, Jason is still in denial that he even has any. That’s not only immature, it’s also irresponsible. Bethenny is right about one thing – he’s a partner in this thing, and has to own his part and his past. Jason is wrong that the boat ride is not worth it. Of course it’s worth it when your marriage, your wife and your daughter matter to you. This trip may have its’ share of problems, but the result could be some smoother sailing.